I realized I was the problem in my marriage when I found the list of 'apologies I deserved' from my ex, dated three years ago.

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Wow, "apologies I deserved" is such a specific and heartbreaking thing to find. What do you think was the moment that made you actually see the list and realize it was about you?

linda1141mo ago

That "heartbreaking" part is the key. It means you already knew deep down you were owed those apologies, so seeing them listed just confirmed it. The moment of realization is just catching up to a truth you've been carrying.

janah831mo ago

Was it the first time you saw your own handwriting and it felt like a stranger wrote it? That happened to me, and I just stood there holding the paper, frozen. It finally clicked that all those little hurts I'd packed away actually mattered.

victor77915d ago

Okay but like, three years is a long time to hold onto a list. Maybe they just needed to vent on paper and then moved on.