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I was going to send an apology to my old roommate in Chicago, but then I found her old journal
I held onto guilt for years about our big fight before I moved out, and I wrote her a long letter trying to explain myself. Last week, I was cleaning out a box and found a journal she left behind, open to a page from that week. She wrote that she was relieved I was leaving because she needed space to figure herself out. It totally changed how I saw the whole thing. Has anyone else had a moment like that, where you found out you weren't the only one at fault?
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piperbailey7mo ago
Happens all the time with old relationships. We replay our own mistakes on a loop. Forgetting the other person had their own side and their own reasons.
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william_garcia6mo ago
Actually, I've found that sometimes the other person's side just doesn't matter much.
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charles_mitchell7mo ago
Ever notice how we do this with everything, not just old relationships? Like when a work project goes wrong, I'll fixate on my part and forget the ten other things that went sideways. Piperbailey is right, it's like our brains have a default setting to blame ourselves and block out the full picture.
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