My brother told me to just walk away from an argument with my best friend

He said, 'Let it sit for a day, then talk.' I didn't listen. I sent a huge, angry text right then, about 2 years ago. We haven't spoken since. I've written maybe a dozen apology letters I never sent, because the silence feels too big to break now. It's the advice I wish I'd taken. Has anyone else ruined a friendship by not waiting to cool off?

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amy_anderson2mo ago

That line about the silence feeling too big to break really hits home. I always thought clearing the air right away was best, but a similar mistake taught me that waiting a day is sometimes the braver thing to do. Letting anger talk for you can cost you a person.

ray_martinez822mo ago

Took me way too long to learn that lesson. Honestly, I used to fire off texts the second I was mad, and it never fixed a thing. Now I make myself wait until the next morning to even type anything out. Ngl, sleeping on it shows you what's actually worth fighting about and what's just your pride talking.

mary4142mo ago

Ugh, yes! I started putting my phone in another room for a full 24 hours if I'm that mad. It's the only thing that works.

victor_robinson2mo ago

My old strategy was to type the angry text but just not hit send... until my thumb slipped one time. Amy_anderson is right, that cost me a person. Now I write it in my notes app and delete it after a good night's sleep.