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My sister told me I never apologized for missing her college graduation in 2019.
We were talking about her new job last week and she said, "You were the only one not there, and you never said why." I'd convinced myself she understood I was broke and busy, but hearing it out loud made me feel awful. Has anyone else had a moment where you realized you owed an apology you never gave?
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wesley_jones4d ago
It's easy to assume people understand our reasons without actually saying them out loud. You figured she knew you were broke and busy, but she was just left with your absence. That silence can feel like you didn't care, even when you really did. Apologizing now for missing it and for not explaining yourself sooner would probably mean a lot. It's never too late to clear the air about something that's clearly still on her mind.
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Used to think time healed all this stuff and people just got over it. Hearing your story makes me see that silence leaves a wound that doesn't close on its own. You should tell her you're sorry you missed it and sorry you never talked about it before. That weight you're feeling is the exact reason to say something now.
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reed.skyler3d ago
Honestly we do this all the time, just assume our good reasons are obvious to everyone else when they really aren't.
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