Should I send this apology to my sister or leave it alone?

I've been sitting on this letter for 2 months now. It's about the argument we had last June at my mom's place in Phoenix. I said some stuff about her boyfriend that I shouldn't have, right after she told me they were getting serious. Part of me thinks sending it would finally clear the air between us, but another part of me worries it might just start another fight. We haven't talked since that night, and I don't know if dragging up the past is worth it. Has anyone else been stuck in this spot where you don't know if an apology helps or hurts more?

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the_lee21d agoMost Upvoted

Oh man, I actually read something about this recently. There was this whole thing about how the longer you wait to apologize, the more your brain builds it up into this huge scary monster in your head. It's like your sister's probably sitting there thinking the same thing, wondering if you even care anymore. Sending it is gonna be awkward for like five minutes, but not sending it means you're both just stuck in this weird silent standoff forever. Just hit send and rip the bandaid off, my dude.

mary_west21d ago

Should I send this apology or leave it alone?" - I vote send it, because my track record of avoiding tough conversations has only led to me apologizing to my houseplants for ignoring them.

the_jennifer21d ago

@mary_west - Is there a specific reason you're hesitating? Because from what you said, it sounds like you want to send it but your brain is making up excuses to avoid the discomfort. I've been there and the longer I waited, the harder it got. Just copy and paste it before your gut talks you out of it. Future you will be glad you did.